“Moments of unhesitating compassion - whether offered or received - leave a deep imprint on our hearts.”
(Boundless Heart, Christina Feldman)
When we experience pain, compassion can soften it and loving-kindness can soothe. Loving-kindness is about befriending our emotions, being kind to ourselves and learning to speak with love, even when our instinct may be to be unkind.
Compassion is about taking action to look after our suffering, to ease the pain and soften our emotions. When we connect with these two qualities of friendliness and kind action, we can soothe and ease our suffering.
Making friends with ourselves is about learning to live with our pain, nurture our sadness and hold hands with our suffering, knowing we will take care of ourselves in these moments. All too often we are unkind to ourselves, telling ourselves off for making mistakes and being harsh and critical, when all we really need is a kind word, a loving thought and a gentle action to put us at ease.
We should learn to love ourselves because this is what we need in the moments when we are swept up in our emotions. We need those kind words, we need a hug, and we need to feel loved and cared for. The harsh words you say to yourself, the telling off, the way you begin to hate things about yourself, does not heal your wounds, it only opens them and keeps the pain going. So, making friends with yourself is the only answer if you wish to heal.
Sit with yourself with kindness, not judgement and rest your hands on your heart, whisper to yourself, that all is going to be ok, tell yourself that you are loved and that you will always be here to support, care and understand. This is what being a friend to yourself is.
Please don’t reject yourself or believe that you are not worthy, because you are, your light is needed in this world, so do your best to be strong, be kind, find self-love and come home to yourself. Rest here, without needing to find a solution, just sitting in love, present, kind and caring. Letting yourself cry, feeling your body as it reacts and just being there, nothing more. Don’t abandon yourself when you need a loving presence the most. Allow yourself time to rest, recover and heal without any limits or pressure, try not to ignore your pain, distract yourself or keep busy, as this only prolongs the struggle.
Your sadness, worry and fear need your kindness, imagine them as a small child, an injured bird or a tiny butterfly and just hold them, support them and encourage them. Then once you have rested and healed you may feel ready to play, laugh, skip or even fly once again.
Trust yourself to find the love within as a way to relieve your suffering, to make friends with the difficult stuff, heal and move forwards. On this bumpy road of life we may have to do this many times, but it’s worth it, you are worth it, your pain and sadness are worth taking care of and transforming into the gold of loving-kindness, compassion and freedom. Look after yourself, be your own best friend and feel the magic of transformation.
A message of love and compassion
Dear ones, kindness is the key to healing, find this right there within you, the warmth, the love, the friendliness that knows how to take care of you. It’s right there inside you, feel the loving warmth that flows into your body and fill the parts of you that need it, allow it to soothe your sadness, calm your worry and rest right there with your struggles. Warm your heart, ease your body and settle your mind with a wave of loving-kindness, of friendship, courage and support. This part of you knows exactly what to do to take care of yourself. It knows how to be with you, to share words of kindness, to encourage and be compassionate. It knows you need rest and time to recover, it’s always patient, kind and thoughtful. Tune into this and listen to those kind words. What does it have to say? What is it that you need in this moment?
Trust the answers and take care of yourself, allow love to flow in and give yourself time for healing, so that you can recover. Breathe a little deeper, relax your body a little more and allow a trickle of light to flow in, brightening your heart, showing you the way and guiding your path. Follow this light and find your freedom, your flow, your ease and journey back to the fullness of yourself, open, spacious and full of unlimited love and compassion. This is the magic, the wonder, the amazing this about metamorphosis, it’s an opportunity for transition, growth and blossoming, and to find your inner truth. Come back to your full and wondrous self and find your way home.
Metamorphosis
Change and transformation don’t just happen, there is a process, a journey, in order to move from one state into another. Just like the caterpillar who rests in a cocoon, we too need to go through the process of pausing, resting and healing before we can unfold our wings into the fullness of our freedom. Below I share a few words about healing and transformation and offer a quote from
’s book ‘Freedom Seeker’ to inspire and uplift you.